Judging The Married Malaysian Indian Gay Men...

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Indian men in Malaysia are subject to many societal norms that govern their lives. A more specific group of the Indian men in Malaysia are almost oppressed into living lives that they unwillingly bear for fear of judgment and alienation; a group that could be designated as, 'Malaysian Indian men with alternate sexual preferences'.

Sex and sexuality is a taboo in the 'Eastern' culture. Even with that ever clichéd notion of globalization and how it has changed, radically, Asian views, being debated over and over again, certain (how can I put it??) sensitive issues still remain, at large, what it has been for the past 5 decades or so; sensitive. Now let's localize the scenario to my home-country, Malaysia and zoom in on the Indian community. Amounting to over 2,000,000 individuals generalization seems inept to deem onto the lot because I have met only 2% of the population, tops, and know, individually, only 0.04% of them, tops! But what we can safely say is that these fraction of the percentages are a projection of the entire Indian community; just a projection not a definite equalization.

And through all those Indian people whom I've known, a projectile generalization is that alternate sexuality is a taboo. From what I've seen and heard, Malaysian Indian people commonly condemn the notion in question, and even if they accept it, they would NOT condone it to the likes of their own family. There is probably a very small pool of liberal, ultra-enlightened families whom embrace gay sons, transsexual nephews, and lesbian cousins but I am YET to come across them, strictly speaking in the context of local Indian people. I have met many wonderful acquaintances that see me as an individual rather than a laughing stock but how they would feel if their closest family members were like me is a conundrum only a semblance of the rightful scenario can explicate. Until and unless 'they' walk in those shoes, 'they' or anyone else for the matter will never be able to unravel the enigma.

With all that being said I would like to zoom in further into yet a definite pool of Malaysian Indian men. They ones with alternate sexual preferences a.k.a gay men. So this rules out transsexuals (cross-dressers, trans-gendered and any other sort included), which leaves us with Malaysian Indian men whom stay men, be it effeminate or otherwise. Talking, again through purely MY views and observations, most of them end up in (un)holy matrimony. Some are forced and some just take the plunge to seem normal and yet some do it because they want to experience pussies too.

My ultimate question is, would one belittle those whom are forced into marriage and are still out there looking for love or would one accept their pursuit by blaming the family?

Of course this goes to say that I personally would not approve of men whom are legally bound out of sheer willingness to either fit in or eat pussy! That just seems greedy. Casual sex is fine with me! It's a matter of personal choice BUT legally bound or in a relationship out of sheer self-conviction and desires and still wanting casual sex is by my conscience something worth disapproving. I have met such men and trust me when I say, they're among you!!! It maybe your uncles, cousins, friends or even your *bites lips* fathers...

Going back to my question, if you had a mother whose steadfastness makes you cringe and all you can do is nod in agreement, if you had a father whose autocratic-like rules leaves you no room for choices and you have come to respect and love your parents for who they are. Would you, for the sake of avoiding holy matrimony, give them up??? And can you judge those whom have bowed down and taken that unwilling plunge???

After all polygamy has been accepted and widely practiced....

Yes, it is all because I am dating a guy whose family forced him into marriage!!! More specifically, a Malaysian Indian gay men.