Preface; this is may be a tad bit NSFW and a tad bit TMI.
You see, not to be the queer person so warped in semantics that I now have to define my sexual kinks but I have suddenly begun to wonder, purely out of frivolity, if having any kink makes me any less vanilla.
Not only am I the most sexually vanilla queer person that I know, I am also, in every fathomable manner, the most sexually inexperienced queer person I know. I may give decent "jobs", I may kiss ok, I may even embrace well but I am very much a novice under the sheets. I've also never had it, or given it from behind...😏 Perhaps it's this inexperience that has made me as vanilla as I am. I don't like anything pain, or hard and heavy, or musty smells, or dirty, or degrading, or extreme. I like everything to be nice, soft, smell nice and look clean, if not beautiful. Vanilla!
Which is why, finding out that I had any form of kink came out of left field for me.
Just Me knows about my eerily exclusive attraction to hairy forearms, nice butts, and dark complexion.
So, and this is the TMI portion of the entry, here's what Just Me doesn't know yet;
I've enjoyed posh wanking from my teens.
I've had this fantasy of restraining someone and having my way with him. On crisp bedding, in a room filled with aromatherapy and ambient lighting.
Oil massages. *takes a deep breath* ooooo.....
I love, wait, listen, LUHHVHHH underwears. Any thick hairy men in mesh boxers, oooouuuffffffhhhh...
I have a vesthi kink. GOD, do I have a vesthi kink!
Precum drives me NUTS!
More recently found out that abstinence, edging and someone else being edged sends me to another realm. ANOTHER REALM! I wouldn't let someone else edge me because I want the control but edging. YES!
So my point is, does having any of these kinks make me less vanilla? Because all of the above also needs to happen nicely, softly, tenderly, on nice sheets or in a clean environment that needs to also smell wonderful.